My nephew is really smart. He's very good at science and comes top of his year in every single exam he sits. I don't know exactly what he wants to study at uni but it's going to be something science-related for sure because he's really passionate about it.
I have spoken to him about setting his sights on Cambridge or Oxford but he says that he doesn't see himself there. We had a family friend who did his undergrad at Oxford and he said he was really lonely there, which put him off. I'm more worried that he's just saying he doesn't want to apply because he's afraid of failure and not getting in.
I'm not sure if I should try to convince him in any way shape or form.
1 week ago
I don’t think you can convince him and I know you may not like hearing this.
What you can do is keep talking to him, continue guiding him and may be signpost/introduce him to platform where he can access more varied views and experiences about studying at Oxford.
It is human nature to be afraid of failure or even success. I don’t know what year your nephew is in but what he needs most is guidance so that he can make an informed decision.
Ultimately, you want him to be happy and succeed which he can do in other prestigious universities in London such as Imperial if he chooses to.
Give him options and try not push him to do something he may not be happy with.
It is important to remember that each child is different. I don’t know your nephew but he may be the type of kid that would flourish more if he stayed at home with all his support systems. He may also be the type of kid that would prefer to be at a university that is more diverse and that he feels he belongs in.
Please remember this is about him, so continue the dialogue. He is very lucky to have someone like you. I hope this helped!
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